In which I tell Richie a story, and then decide to share:

Cellycel says:
I had an ex who told me he was moving to South Australia and never coming back. So we broke up. I started dating the dude I’m dating now.
When he came back in a years time, he kept trying to get us back together.
Richie says:
gah
Cellycel says:
Like he’d get high at parties and be like “Celly can we have one last kiss?” and I’d be like “No. Stop that.”
Then, and here’s the brilliant part. He, my new boyfriend, myself and a bunch of other people we knew MOVED INTO A HOUSE TOGETHER.
Good move, good move.
Richie says:
oh dear
Cellycel says:
It ended with him getting really really mad at my current boyfriend over various (probably legitimate) things. My boyfriend is, as they say an asshole.
He’s is one of those assholes who you _just can’t hurt or visibly make feel bad_ so my ex decided he’d throw all of that anger onto me. Seeing as how he’d dated me in the past and knew what really upset me and all.
I didn’t know he was doing it for the longest time ’till a few months after we all moved out I saw him again and asked about it. He explained that whole “Couldn’t hurt your boyfriend, so had to hurt you” thing to me.
So taken a back a bit I was like… “Ummm…. So would you ever do it again?” and he said “Yes. Yes I would”
So I’ve not talked to him except for the times he’s tried to contact me on my birthdays for the last two years.
The first year he sent a message saying “I didn’t get you a physical present, but I offer you the rekindling of our friendship”
Richie says:
*barf*
Cellycel says:
So I sent back something like “If you didn’t get me anything that’s cool. But don’t go doing something for yourself and then saying it’s a gift to me. That’s like saying ‘I bought myself a roller coaster for your birthday, but you can ride it too.’ that shit doesn’t fly.”
And then he didn’t contact me until my _next_ birthday where he got on msn and said “hey” and we had a conversation never mentioning any of that business.
Richie says:
:/
Cellycel says:
This guy was the porn editor - for reference.
Richie says:
Right
Cellycel says:
he also claimed to be highly submissive. Once when I was mad at him I pointed out that for someone who was so ’submissive to women’ he didn’t seem to actually respect anything real women had to say, and asked why he had so much porn of girls gagged and bound anyway, if _he_ got off on being submissive and liked others to be dominant.
He basically told me I’d caught him out, and he knew the whole thing was a farce, but no-one else picked up on it.
(Seriously, he’d have house mates cuff him to his bed so he could feel “comfortable” knowing it creeped half the people in the house out, but really he’s just submissive and doesn’t care for playing with power himself.)
Richie says:
That’s bizarre
Cellycel says:
What he was _actually_ enjoying there was creeping out one of the housemates in particular. IRL trolling basically.
Richie says:
Bah
Cellycel says:
Another interesting dynamic in that house:
The person who got so freaked out by Mr “Please tie me to my bed while I meditate” was the guy who yelled at his girlfriend a lot and was constantly making her cry and then leaving the room while she was still crying acting like nothing ever happened.
Mr “Yelling at my girlfriend is totally cool and normal” was really creeped out by Mr “Please tie me to my bed while I meditate”
Which struck me as right odd since Mr “yelling at my girlfriend is cool and normal” had lots of his own porn about women being bound and gagged.
Richie says:
That sounds terrible
Cellycel says:
Yeah. I didn’t realize quite how fucked it all was when I was there.
I mean, I picked up on about half of it, and it was a lot more _emotional_ at the time - but I didn’t really _get_ the extent of it.