Childfree
In the egl community on livejournal a childfree lolita community was announced. I like lolita, and I don’t really plan on having children (I think I would be a terrible mother.) So I thought I’d join.
But really - I don’t/didn’t know much about what the term “childfree” entails. It’s meant to be a big ol’ community thing. I thought I’d look into it.
I’ve been reading this website for the past ages:
http://www.happilychildfree.com/
Now, there are things this person was talking about that I don’t agree with. A general mocking of people on welfare as well as what appears to be a good dose of classism, but I put that down to the person writing the blog. They even say that not everyone in community agrees about these things. So, this childfree person says some things that I disagree with, but I’m not going to take that as a representation of the whole community.
At one point they say something like all the seeming misogyny in childfree communities can be put down to the fact that a lot of the people who bother them about their lifechoices are mommies.
Some red flags go up.
I read this page:
http://happilychildfree.com/glossary.htm
Warning bells go up more. This is meant to be a page with commonly used lingo in the community. The number of gender specific insults against women seems… uhhh… high. I’m going to list all of the gender specific glossary terms, first listing terms for/about women, and then listing terms for/about men.
For a bit of background reading about gendered words and the power of words, I suggest checking out these articles by Laurelin.
http://laurelin.wordpress.com/2006/10/08/the-terrorism-of-words/#comments
http://laurelin.wordpress.com/2007/01/17/the-power-of-words-i/
http://laurelin.wordpress.com/2007/01/19/the-power-of-words-ii/
http://laurelin.wordpress.com/2007/02/07/the-power-of-words-iii/#comments
In fact, just go read her entire damned blog already!
*note to self, add her blog to your blogroll already.
Anyway, on with the list.
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Bint — A British term meaning a woman with no class. Often used on Childfree boards to describe trashy breeder women.
Entitlemoo — Entitlement-minded mother who thinks everyone should worship the ground she walks on and give her everything she wants and make her life as easy as possible because she’s convinced that giving birth earns her the right to be treated like a queen.
Lowing — Female breeders whining and bitching. Also known as “mooing.”
Martyr Mommy Brigade — This new breed of mommys who crave attention and sympathy so much that they’ll go to any lengths to get it.
Mombie — Combination of the words Mommy and Zombie. Occasionally used to describe a woman with placenta brain — she’s turned into a “mombie”.
Mommy — Any woman with kids that you just can’t take seriously. I prefer this to the word “moo.” They think of themselves as nothing more than “mommies” so I think we should think of them as nothing more than mommies. They aren’t grown women, they aren’t ladies, they are JUST mommies. They don’t even like the term “housewife” because they don’t consider themselves wifes — just mommies.
I use this to show how little respect I have for women who consider themselves no more than “mommies”. I’d rather use this than the word “moo” to describe them. She’s not a grown woman, she’s not a lady, she’s JUST a mommy.
Mommy Identity — When a woman’s entire identity is wrapped up in being a mother. She’ll go to great lengths to make her kids totally dependent on her for as long as possible to secure that identity out of fear she’ll have to get a new identity and/or get a job.
Mommy Voice — The voice some breeder women use when they talk to you in a snotty, superior tone as if they were speaking to one of their children. Makes you feel sorry for their kids.
Mommyism — A form of feminism that focuses on getting special rights for mommies and screwing over childfree women and men in the process. Example: Mommies want flextime in the office, but don’t think anyone but them should get it.
Moo — Usually stands for “Mother Obsessed with Offspring” or “Mother Oblivious to Offspring” although sometimes it just means a breeder woman.
Mooing — Female breeders whining and bitching. Also known as “lowing.”
Oblivamoo — Combination of “oblivious” and “moo” …a clueless mother who is either totally ignoring her child’s bad behavior or is just totally clueless about how to be a parent.
Placenta Brain — this describes the disease that happens to many women when they have children. Can also happen to men with children. Symptoms of the disease include: talking about nothing but their pregnancy and/or child(ren), losing all hobbies outside of their children, inability to hire a babysitter, lack of consideration for other people, saying really stupid things, and generally just being an idiot. In some cases, this condition clears up when the children all enter school, but in many cases they never recover.
SAHM, SAHMoo — Stands for “Stay at Home Mommy” (or “Stay at Home Moo”) In other words, unemployed mommy or what used to be called a “housewife”. Sometimes pronounced as “Sham”.
SHAM, Sham — Just a mocking term for “Stay at Home Mommy” (or “Stay at Home Moo”). In other words, unemployed mommy or what used to be called a “housewife”.
SMUM — Smart, Middle-Class, Uninvolved Mother. Basically, the yuppie, suburbanite mothers.
Stork Parking — Any parking that is reserved for pregnant women or women with children. You know, anything that encourages them to get as little exercise as possible. We wouldn’t want our young mothers to be HEALTHY, would we?
Tit Nazi — Overzealous breeders who are obsessed with breastfeeding in public, and yelling and screaming at people about how “breast is best,” bullying other women into breastfeeding, and bullying businesses into relaxing their public decency laws to allow them to whip their tits out in public. Beware of the tit-nazis – they are a very angry bunch with too much time on their hands.
THJITW– Stands for “The Hardest Job in the World” – Mantra of the Stay-at-home-mommies to make themselves feel less insecure about not working. If they weren’t so insecure, they wouldn’t have to claim they are superior to everyone else. Personally, I can think of a lot harder jobs than sitting at home with your own kids – like watching someone else’s bratty kids that you don’t like and aren’t allowed to discipline or scold in any way. So apparently there ARE harder jobs in the world – like being a day-care provider.
TMIJITW — Stands for “The Most Important Job in the World”. Mantra of Stay-at-home-mommies to make themselves feel less insecure about not working. If they weren’t so insecure, they wouldn’t have to claim they are superior to everyone else. Most of these women couldn’t last a day without disposable diapers, DVD players and their monster-sized strollers, so apparently there ARE more important jobs in the world – like the people making disposable diapers, DVD players and strollers.
Womban — Technically, any woman who has at least one kid, although more specifically used to describe gals with kids that want “special rights” to go along with that. Basically, this term is used when you don’t want to malign the whole female gender — just the ones who are the problem. The plural is “Womben”.
Yup Moo — Yuppie or middle class mommies who think they and their kids are superior to all the “peons” in the world. Their children truly are nothing but accessories and they take the kids everywhere to show them off, and they overschedule them with lots of extracurricular activites to show off their “unique” talents. Yup Moos love tell you about all the things THEY would never lower themselves to do, to prove they are far suprior to others. You’ll need a barf bag to be in the same room as one.
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Dud — Loser male breeder.
Duh — Slack-jawed, clueless male breeder.
Golden Boy — This is the son born to some sexist jerk who thinks he MUST have a son, and no daughter will be good enough, and then when he finally gets the son, he spoils him rotten.
Sperm Donor — The father. Sometimes used to describe a man who didn’t want to actually RAISE kids, he just had them for the Kodak moments or to please the wife. Also used to describe how some women only use men (even their husbands) for their sperm.
Wallet — Usually used to describe the husband of a SAHM. She uses him as nothing more than a paycheck. Also could be used to describe someone paying child support.
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Ouch. If I counted right, there were 76 words in that list. 22 of them were specifically relating to women (pretty much all of them insults/slurs.)
5 of them were related to men, and two of those five can be used to describe terrible behaviors of women.
Ooooh~
*suspicious*
